@SeekingPlumb

Do you "talk at" or do you "talk to/with" people?

Generally speaking. And when listening back to your swells, do you talk at people or do you talk to with them? Also, thinking back to the creation process. Is this differentiation, even something that you consider? Or is this something you think about in your day to day interactions? And lastly, is one better over the other in different circumstances

Is one of these better than the other? Or do they each have their time & place? #communication

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@StunningNBrave
Chris Cowan
@StunningNBraveΒ Β·Β 0:38
Talking at implies dictating without listening. Talking with implies listening and responding and having a conversation and conversations are are almost always preferable to simply dictating because that's how we grow. That's how we challenge our perspectives and beliefs. And that is how we can buy the opportunity, challenge the perceptions and beliefs of others if they know that we are willing to listen to theirs
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@SeekingPlumb

Conscious intention? @StunningNBrave

I think if the goal is understanding or meeting someone on the same, you know, wavelength, other same plane in a conversation, then talking with someone is obviously the preferred choice. But I think there also has to be an intention, a conscious intention when speaking with someone that it doesn't turn into talking at
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Swell Team
@SwellΒ Β·Β 0:15

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@StunningNBrave
Chris Cowan
@StunningNBraveΒ Β·Β 1:01
I think in a lot of relationships, in friendships, sometimes you have to hold each other accountable. And yes, reasoning with someone is ideal. Conversating understanding is ideal. But sometimes you just got to call people on their s***, especially if expediency is key
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@Wordsmith
Sreeja V
@WordsmithΒ Β·Β 1:37

Converse to connect

The tone I'm going to take, though, definitely matters right. When I put out that spell, I definitely would not want to give a feeling that anyone is being talked at. However, in other scenarios with close friends and family, it could at times be a conversation too, with or even at but with colleagues and acquaintances, it's mostly with because I want to know more about their thoughts and where they are coming from and can only add value
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@Ramya
Ramya V
@RamyaΒ Β·Β 1:45

Great question @SeekingPlumb!

But I get your point about how there could be situations where talking with can turn into or gradually become talking at someone, and that would depend on a lot of factors. The gradual course that your conversation takes, it would also greatly depend on your tone and your attitude and also the very topic that you are discussing. And of course, the people who choose to engage with you
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreoΒ Β·Β 3:21

I feel I’m more of a "Talk At" type of person. πŸ€”

But in my core essence, I'm always kind of separating the feeling from what I am hearing, and I'm trying to be as impartial and unbiased as I can when I am talking about something, it can give off this vibe as I'm dictating or I'm talking to people. But really I'm just trying to provide clarity and also my perspective before all that happens. So I would say yes, I am a natural talk at person
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@SeekingPlumb

Receiving & giving. @wordsmith @NamelessJournal

I don't know that I've thought about communication like this before. I think usually it's this push pool concept in my head or a game of Ping Pong, and that is completely different. I say that, but that's not entirely true. I think, as has been said by several of you, it's different depending on the circumstances who we're communicating with and even the topic
@SeekingPlumb

Love the analogy, @NamelessJournal!

Incidentally, I really appreciated your analogy of inviting someone to a party and then spiriting them. I think you're absolutely right. Most of us would not want to do that to anyone
@SeekingPlumb

How important is/isnt it to the effectiveness of the conversation? @Inxj

Tuan that being your tendency. Do you think it does or does not play a role in whether people actually hear you like, from your perspective, you're taking the emotion out of it. But on the flip side, you could be I'm not saying you are, but you could be injecting an increased possibility that your listener is going to have an emotional response. And if that's the case, doesn't cloud the conversation. And does that even matter? Or is that the goal
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreoΒ Β·Β 2:17

For me it’s when the conversation really begins. @SeekingPlumb

And what it can do is it can create separation. So that's an interesting thing where people don't always want to emotionally respond, because that is, in fact, what I am not doing is emotionally responding to something. At least the principle behind it is more along the lines of the information rather than other effect and what it could have. But yeah, I would say that is what I am looking for. It is what excites me more
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